Dear Friend,
What if
I were to tell you that there was a "secret" language that men and women used to communicate "sexual interest" to each other…
And what
if I were to tell you that if you KNEW that language you would be able to start making women feel ATTRACTION for you INSTANTLY…
but if you DIDN'T know that language (as most men don't), women would instantly "turn off" and never give you a second chance?
What if
I further told you that I could teach you this "secret language" of SEXUAL COMMUNICATION, and it would INSTANTLY change your
success level with women for the better?
As you
know, truth is often stranger than fiction…
But after
more than five years of carefully studying guys who are successful with women and dating (and going from clueless to very
successful with women myself) I've figured something out that has gone UNDETECTED (or at least UNDISCLOSED) by almost every
man that has ever lived.
An Important Discovery I
Made
Before
I tell you what the secret is, and how it works, I want to share a very interesting story with you…
This is
the story of how I came to discover "Sexual Communication" the HARD way.
About five
years ago, when I first started learning how to "meet women", I decided that it would be a good idea to read everything I
could find about the topic.
So I went
to bookstores, got on the internet, and bought all the books I could find on the subject. I also went to seminars, listened
to audio tapes, and found just about every other source in existence to gather more information.
Here are
a few examples of what I found:
"If a woman
plays with her hair while she's talking to you, she's signaling that she's interested."
"If a woman
sways her hips while she's walking, it means that she's signaling sexual availability."
"If a woman
makes and keeps eye contact with you three times in a row, it means that she wants you to approach her and start a conversation."
I'm sure
you've heard things like this yourself.
The problem
is that the books didn't mention HOW TO GET A WOMAN TO DO THESE THINGS IN THE FIRST PLACE.
In other
words, how do you get a woman to MAKE eye contact with you three times in a row? How do you get a woman to play with her hair
while she's talking to you? This stuff sounded all well and good… except for the fact that women NEVER did these things
around me!
Further,
the books I was reading and other sources recommended things like:
"When a
woman has a problem, she just wants a man to listen, not to try to fix it."
"If a woman
gets upset with something or doesn't like something you've done, you should say “I'm Sorry.” That's how to fix
it."
"Women
like honest, sensitive men who can communicate their feelings."
And what
happened when I did things like this?
Of course…
When I
just "listened" to women's problems, they became "friends" and said things like "I really don't want to mess up our friendship,
so let's just keep this as friends".
When I
said "I'm sorry" to women, they looked at me as if to say "You should be."
When I
was "honest" and "sensitive" and told women how I "felt" about them, they disappeared, and it seemed as if this was the WORST
thing I could have done.
Before long, I came to realize the painful truth:
The
"Relationship Experts" Don't Know What's Going On When It Comes To ATTRACTION
In short,
not only was the advice that I found useless because it didn't teach HOW to make women feel attracted to me, even WORSE I
was learning things that were clearly HURTING me and reducing my chances of success.
It didn't
seem possible.
But it
was.
I later
found out that two of the biggest "relationship" experts had been married to EACH OTHER, and got DIVORCED… and that
one of them was on her fourth or fifth husband.
The more
I read and learned from the "experts", the more I couldn't help but realize two things:
In other
words, it was a frustrating, confusing road to find the gems in the huge mountain of information.
There had
to be a better way.
Well, the
answer to my situation, it turned out, was an unusually simple and obvious one.
Learning From The
“Naturals”
I went
out and started making friends with guys who were "naturally" good with women.
Instead
of listening to what the "experts" CLAIMED was the right thing to do, I started actually watching with my own two eyes.
I went
out and watched, listened, and took careful notes… as I personally observed some very successful guys approaching women,
getting phone numbers, and in many cases KISSING, MAKING OUT WITH, and even TAKING HOME women they had just met.
And what
I saw CONFUSED THE HELL out of me.
These guys
were do things like making fun of women they didn't know, behaving like arrogant jerks, and in some cases being almost abusive.
I just couldn't believe that these behaviors had anything to do with their success.
I discounted
all of it, and chalked it up to something else. Maybe these guys were really "attractive" or good-looking to women. Maybe
they had some other advantage I didn't know about. Or maybe they were so persistent that they overcame these "mistakes" they
were making.
In fact,
it took me several MONTHS of thinking about what was happening before the light bulb came on in my head, and I realized that
what I was learning from the so-called "experts" was NOT what actually worked.
Duh!
One of
my friends who was (and still is) particularly good with women and making them feel ATTRACTION for him once tried to explain
what he was doing for me.
He said
"I take an attitude with women that is a combination of being arrogant while at the same time being funny… and women
love it… they eat it up." Sometimes he used the word "cocky" to describe his communication and behavior with women.
He told
me this same thing over the next few months.
Every time
he said it, I became confused.
I just
couldn't imagine how being "cocky & funny" could possibly be the thing that made women like him. It made no sense to me,
and I always discounted that particular thing, and looked for OTHER things he was doing that were probably the REAL reasons
he was successful.
Well, after
watching him interact with women on many occasions, and making friends with other guys who were really good with women, I
started to realize something VERY profound.
I realized
that when THESE guys started conversations with women, the women they were talking to were talking to them in a way that was
very DIFFERENT from the way they were talking to other guys.
One night
I went out with a different friend, and we met up with two beautiful girls.
From the
INSTANT the conversation started, they were happy and animated when talking to him.
But every
time I got into the conversation, they just looked at me with a bored stare.
It was
bizarre.
Here I
was with a guy friend and two women, and it was like they were changing IDENTITY when talking to my friend.
For some
damn unexplainable reason, he was having a MAGICAL effect on them.
We all
decided to go to the dance floor of the club where we met.
The girl
he was dancing with was smiling, flirting, and dancing sexy with him, and her friend was dancing with me in a way that said
"I wish I wasn't even here."
Of course,
when my friend would look at the girl I was dancing with, or reach over and touch her, she'd become happy and excited again.
The IRONIC
part of this story is that my friend loves to TEASE women, bust their balls, and make fun of them to the EXTREME. He is about
as far from a "nice guy" as they get.
I, on the
other hand, was VERY "nice" and polite. A perfect gentleman, really.
As you
can probably tell, this moment had a big impact on me.
Here I
was being the model of a nice, respectful guy… and my friend was being an arrogant bastard… and the women loved
HIM.
Let me
ask you… have you ever had something like this happen? Have you ever had a woman act "coldly" to you, and then turn
around and hang all over another guy?
It sucks,
doesn't it? And the worst part is not understanding WHY it's happening… and feeling like there's nothing you can DO
about it.
My Big Realization...
Shortly
after that, I had the "Ah Ha!" moment that I mentioned earlier.
It struck
me in a "blinding flash of the obvious" that MAYBE WOMEN INTERPRETED THE WAY MY FRIENDS WERE ACTING IN A DIFFERENT WAY THAN
I WAS.
In other
words, I realized that maybe there was some sort of "code language" being used. And because I didn't know it, I couldn't understand
it.
Have you
ever seen one of those code books that has a paragraph of "normal sentences", but if you take every third letter of each word
it spelled out an entirely different message? And if you didn't know that there was a "code", you'd never see the other message?
Well, that
was the big realization for me.
Shortly
after having this insight, I went out with my other friend - the first one I told you about who tried to explain his attitude
with women to me. We actually went out to a topless club on this particular night (Shhhhh).
On the
way, I was having him explain his "method" to me again.
But THIS
time I was listening to EXACTLY what he was saying, and treating the conversation like I was trying to learn a new "code."
Well, we
walked into the club, and within about an hour I had a girl who would not get off my lap, and who gave me her phone number
right on the spot (and later went out with me several times). Keep in mind, this was a topless club, and I had not "purchased"
any dances from this girl or given her any money.
What REALLY
"tripped me out" about this was the way I was BEHAVING when I was in the club talking to her.
I was doing
and saying things to her that I NEVER would have said or done before. I was actually behaving in a way that I had previously
assumed could NEVER be the way to attract women.
And yet
it worked.
I was confused
and excited all at the same time.
I had been
difficult, stand-offish, brash, and NON-complimentary (translation: anything but "nice")… and yet she liked me enough
to give me her real name and phone number on the spot.
Well, over
the next couple of years I was able to put the entire "puzzle" together.
I have
to say, it was like trying to put a huge puzzle together in a dimly lit room, without knowing what the picture on the cover
looked like… but I did it.
And here
are some of the amazing things I figured out:
